When we experience loss—whether it’s the end of a relationship, a betrayal, or the unraveling of a life we thought we knew—our nervous system registers the threat. The body may respond with tight shoulders, a clenched jaw, a racing heart, or a sense of numbness. These aren’t just symptoms to be managed; they’re messages. They’re your body’s way of saying: “This matters. Something needs tending.”
This is where somatic exercises can become a powerful part of healing.
Somatic therapy recognizes that our physical sensations and movements are deeply tied to our emotional experiences. Instead of only talking through heartbreak, we also move through it—gently, intentionally, and with care.
Here are a few simple somatic practices you can try:
1. Grounding Through the Feet
Stand barefoot and slowly shift your weight from one foot to the other. Feel the connection with the ground. Press your feet into the earth and notice: I am here. I am safe. This helps anchor the nervous system and reminds your body of the present moment, where healing can begin.
LISTEN: Guided Meditation for Healing Heartbreak through grounding called “Grounded Silence”
2. Vocal Vibration
Humming is one of the quickest ways to activate the vagus nerve, which plays a key role in regulating stress. Try humming low and slow for 60 seconds, with your hands resting on your chest. Feel the vibration. This small act can send a big message to your body: You’re okay. You’re not alone.
LISTEN: Heal through the Power of Sound and Frequency by Sonic Yogi
3. Heart Hold
Place one hand on your heart, the other on your belly. Breathe deeply. Imagine sending warmth or compassion to your heart—like you would to a friend. Say gently to yourself, “This is hard, and I’m still here.” This act can soothe the inner storm.
4. Shaking It Out
Animals in the wild physically shake after a threat. Humans forget to do this—but we should. Put on music and let your body move. Shake your arms, your legs, your shoulders. Let go. It doesn’t have to look like dancing; just let your body release some of the grief it’s holding.
5. Constructive Rest
Lie on your back with your knees bent and feet flat, letting gravity take over. Place a folded towel under your head if needed. Stay for 5–10 minutes, breathing gently. This position resets your spine, calms your system, and gives your body permission to rest.
Work with Me
Heartbreak is an invitation that asks us to slow down, turn inward, and pay attention to what we need. Somatic work doesn’t erase pain, but it helps us carry it differently. It makes space for movement, breath, and eventually, release.
If you’re navigating heartbreak and looking for support, I offer therapy in Indiana and Connecticut, and I also run Your Therapy RX—a weekly online coaching group for healing and connection. Together, we’ll find ways to help your heart—and your body—begin to mend.
